Today, I would like to go over the 4th of 6 ways to discover for yourself that your unwanted emotions are actually created by thoughts and not by circumstances.
To get started, I would like you to pick an unwanted emotion that you think is caused by a current circumstance in your life. For example, you may want to stop feeling the sadness that you think is caused by your bad physical appearance, you may want to stop feeling the shame that you think is caused by your insufficient job, or you may want to stop feeling the sense of lack that you think is caused by problems in your relationship.
Please take a moment now to pick this unwanted emotion that you believe was caused by a specific current circumstance in your life. Please remember that this blog post will only help you to experience more peace in your life if you actually engage with it.
Can you have fun and enjoy yourself even though the unwanted circumstance is still in you life?
Now, I would like you to think about what you do for fun. What do you do to enjoy yourself, escape your emotions, distract yourself, or just have fun? You may go dancing, play sports, socialize, go to concerts, listen to music, watch tv, or play with your kids. Think about what you do for fun.
So why is it that you are able to have fun despite the “bad” circumstance in your life still existing?
Your “bad” circumstance can’t be creating your emotion
If a “bad” circumstance itself creates a specific unwanted emotion, then as long as we have that same “bad” circumstance, we would not be able to escape the specific unwanted emotion that the circumstance creates. If our unattractiveness directly creates our sadness, then we wouldn’t be able to escape this sadness as long as we are unattractive. If our “bad” relationship creates our unhappiness, then we wouldn’t be able to feel happy while still being in the relationship. If our “bad” job causes our feeling of shame, then we wouldn’t be able to have a break from this shame as long as we are in our “bad” job.
Entertainment and distractions from our thoughts are often enough to stop our unwanted emotions
However, in life, regardless of how “bad” our circumstances are, often all it takes to stop feeling one of our unwanted emotions is to simply engage in our favorite hobbies or some form of entertainment. It may seem that our unattractiveness directly creates our sadness, but all we need to do to stop feeling sad is turn on one of our favorite TV shows. It may seem that our “bad” relationship creates our unhappiness, but all we need to do to stop feeling unhappy is to go dancing. It may seem as if our “bad” job is creating our shame, but all we need to stop to feeling ashamed is to go play with our children.
No matter how “bad” our circumstances are, and no matter what unwanted emotion we are experiencing, we generally stop feeling the unwanted emotion when we are playing with our children, watching TV, dancing, playing music, doing yoga, eating delicious food, or playing sports. So why are we able to stop experiencing our unwanted emotions and have fun (be happy) just by entertaining ourselves? This happens simply because entertainment distracts us from the negative thoughts that are actually creating our suffering. If a “bad” circumstance created our unwanted emotion, then we wouldn’t be able to escape the unwanted emotion simply by distracting ourselves from our thoughts.
If our “bad” circumstance still exists, but yet we can make ourselves happy purely by distracting ourselves from our negative thoughts, then it must be our thoughts that are creating our unhappiness.
Discover that your unwanted emotion is created by a thought and not by your circumstances
Please take a moment to remember the unwanted emotion that you picked in the beginning of this blog post. Now, please ask yourself the following questions.
The Questions: What do I like to do to entertain myself and have fun? When I am feeling my unwanted emotion, do these activities enable me to enjoy myself and stop feeling the unwanted emotion? If my “bad” circumstance still exists, yet I can make myself happy from engaging in activities I enjoy, then can I admit that my “bad” circumstance is not causing my unwanted emotion? If I can go from experiencing an unwanted emotion to being happy simply by entertaining myself (distracting myself from my thoughts), then can I admit that my thoughts must be creating my unwanted emotion?
Did these questions help you to see that your emotion is created by thoughts? Please let me know.
If you would like to disbelieve the thought that is creating your unwanted emotion… you can click the following link to try The 5 Steps to The Present Moment … or you can contact me for help.